/Yeah its not about just tahan-ing for the sake of the marriage certificate or children, but actually living out the commitments made and preserving the sanctity of the union. Tough luck man. I used to think that's the only thing that can make me leave my spouse. But over the years I have realised that him breaking his commitment to you does not nullify your commitment to him/

'through thick and thin'..

didnt see it that way

'My parents divorced when I was 12 and I was pretty upset when they divorced but eventually got over it. Like my mother, I grew up to be a strong willed and independent woman. But unfortunately, I also found out that like my mother, I also could not hold a relationship. When I hit 30, I hit a crisis and it was then that I studied myself and realized that I've had a long history of non-commital relationships stemmed from my fear of separation. My mother and I talked and worked through it and we definitely are stronger, however, she mentioned many times that she never knew. Hell, I never knew. I'm sure you're a great mother and I have much respect for single parents, but please don't assume that your daughter is ok because she smiles, and hugs, jokes around, is loving and says she's fine. Because some scars don't go away so easily.'

i shld talk about it excitedly right? such questions should get me all happy and woozy and excited.

definitely not exasperated... :((

This is gorgeous...

till then.... :)

'Let someone love you just the way you are – as flawed as you might be, as unattractive as you sometimes feel, and as unaccomplished as you think you are. To believe that you must hide all the parts of you that are broken, out of fear that someone else is incapable of loving what is less than perfect, is to believe that sunlight is incapable of entering a broken window and illuminating a dark room.'

-so apt... :) (if you do come here... love these stuff and just had to copy and put them here for log sake!) feel so hopeful every time after browsing (your) tumblr... :)

cos i'm so prideful, i initially took things very very negatively. was stubborn as hell not to listen to what he said and dismiss his words as insults (which i did feel insulted by... but lets just look past that because 'if there are many ways to interpret what i say, i mean it in the least harmful way ever'). but odd was so patient and soft with his tone, as compared to his initial harsher one, that i felt that i had to stop looking inward and look at him. am still so embarrassed by what happened to me that he had to offer his help but .i'm very grateful for odd.

when i looked at his face, a phrase he once said to me flashed across my mind:

'but i'm still here after all these while, am i not.'

not said lovingly as he was very frustrated with me then... but the way he said it made me realise how fortunate i am. that no matter what wrong i've done/i'd do in my life, this is one person that should not be a part of that.

ytd, fangka and i chanced upon a youtube video titled (something like) : tyra banks losing her cool on antm. the scenario was as such: a girl was kicked out of antm and gng ard giving her goodbye hugs. instead of the crying, defeated stance that kicked-out-girls usually display, she was cracking jokes in an obvious attempt to ease the tense situation. tyra was watching all the while and couldnt take that the girl didnt seem upset. she called her back to the stage and told her that she was disappointed. the girl spoke up in defence which angered tyra so much that she said :

the way i am shouting at you right now is like how my mother would shout at me. because she loves me; because she knows that i am capable of much more. we (the judging panal) were all rooting for you. dont give me crap about things not being in your favour. if you wanted this, you should have worked for it ,hard. then you'd succeed. the only reason you failed is because you didnt put your heart in this. we all know you are capable.  you only have yourself to blame.

was struck by the video cos firstly, cmon admit it: a person behaving out of anger is hilaaarioussss. we dont know what humour is present but the words,actions, posture employed...just so ridiculously funny. secondly, tyra struck me as someone who'd never lose her cool. thirdly, that scene was impromptu and the speech she gave was brilliant. so logical and meaningful and well put ... ok yknow what, just watch the video.

it's a conscious decision

“If you love a flower, don’t pick it up.
Because if you pick it up it dies and it ceases to be what you love.
So if you love a flower, let it be.
Love is not about possession.
Love is about appreciation.”
~Osho

i agree with this so much. and that's why i had to let go of so many people impt in my life...

if youre seeing this , i apologise for what i said. you should just tell me to stop talking like that instead of disappearing off in anger... stop doing this disappearing act =/

before leaving for melb, i had a conversation with a friend. she was saying that she did not want anybody in her life yet because she doesnt want to drag anyone else into her mess. it made perfect sense to me because this is the situation playing out in my life .

ughhhh. :((( ok i cant go on. this waiting game is too much for me to take

hey can i say one more thing. remember the time you asked me about this question why i liked you and i couldnt give you an answer you wanted to hear?

no
you cldnt even give me an ans ha ha
i read this article. wanted to share with you but i don't know where it has gone to
but the takeaway is
love is a simple feeling
it doesn't really have to be justified with reasons which to an extent i believe mine is
i just want to see you happy
"and more than anything, i want to be the cause of it"

yeah but feelings need to be justified
i believe that its simple
but it shld be justified
more than anything , a rship is a commitment
and the desire to want to commit to this person
just now, otw down in the lift, this old couple shuffled in . and the lady was wearing grandma clothes and specs and looking wrinkly .and i looked at the old man with his cane and baggy grandpa clothes and cldnt uds why they still hung on to each other
but she slowly rotated in her axis to face him and they two just stoned in each other's directinos
then they shuffled out tgt slowly . and it made me realise that even if they dont have love anymore
they committed themselves so long ago to be in each other's lives and now ,its a 'i cannot live without her' kind of situation and not a 'i want to live with her'

i rmb hearing someone's vows that was similar to that . and thinking that everyone should be given the opportunity to experience as such

"i was thinking
why is so much money put into humanitarian organizations
yet the problem is not  being solved
i was thinking along the lines of such organizations working like a business
always seeking to do things the efficient way
and the time spent to seek the efficient way always takes so long
and while the time is being used up to do things the efficient way
there are people dying
maybe humanitarian organizations need to be more practical instead of doing things in what a organization nowadays are working in"

something blatant yet never occurred to the mind till presented.

anywayz, i dreamt that ahma surprised me by appearing by my bedside when i woke up this morning. then .i asked her to cook eggs for me . lolllllll. and her trick was : to add water .

Agonizing over ending things with whatstheirname… before they’ve even started.
Classic move. You know you’re about to go on an emotional roller coaster ride with this person, and you know what? Roller coasters are scary. So you’re obviously going to try and come up with a million reasons why it’s not going to work out between the two of you… and fail.
it is heck scary but hes worth it ..

(http://thoughtcatalog.com/2013/18-reasons-being-in-a-relationship-is-awesome/

http://thoughtcatalog.com/2011/ten-reasons-why-being-in-a-relationship-is-awesome/

http://thoughtcatalog.com/2012/5-reasons-why-it-would-be-awesome-to-have-a-boyfriend-right-now/ )