if you've been following, you'd know that i recently dragged myself through a book called 'kiss dating goodbye' -for a selfish motive really, but turned out to be a blessing in disguise- and i've learnt qte a fair bit! decided to share it here, it will be a good reminder to all out there.
firstly: Redeeming the time-Making the most of your singleness
1. Hustle while you wait
This means that we are not to waste the time we have on our hands. God entrusted us various talents and gifts, and expects us to to guard and use them wisely. 'Will we give Him a return on His investment in us?' Before we even begin a romantic rship, we have work to do! -Bad habits to get rid of, good habits to develop and character to build.
2. 'Watering camels'
The story of Rebekah (from the bible)-about how she met Abraham's servant while she was performing her daily task of collecting water from some well. The impt point to note is that "Rebekah was able to meet God's divine apptment for her life bcos she was faithfully carrying out her current obligations".
3. Practice now!
In that, you practice the skills that are required for married life now. Skills such as:
-Intimacy with closed ones present in one's life now (eg. family members)
-Seeking God with others (starting off with family first, then branching out to close, trusted friends)
-Financial responsibility (self explanatory!)
-Parenthood
-Practical life skills
The point of all these is not for the sole purpose of getting married though, one must note! The real reasons for these is so that one can grow in maturity and Christlikeness. becoming a good spouse is just a by-pdt.
There are-of course-other lists to help single people in this journey if they are struggling. Come ask me to borrow the book if you're interested, i'm tired of typing, haha! i wna share one more section of the book-though not related to dating :
This last chapter is entitled: Someday I'll have my own story to tell.
It started off with Josh recounting the story of how his parents met. his dad was onstage playing the guitar, his mum was one of the audiences and attracted his attention. after the gig, he approached her- very hesitantly of course (i'd imagine the mum to be rather attractive cos josh is qte good looking himself, haha !) .
ANYWAY, this is what josh said of his dad : " here, someone my age, grips me. at this point in his (josh's dad) life, he has only recently returned to the Lord and to his hometown of dayton. i steal closer to my mum's table when i notice my dad try to appear aimless as he wanders in her direction. i had forgotten that as a young man, my dad faced an unknown and confusing world too. "
that struck me cos i have never thought abt things that way. (even though jan told me about rmbing that my parents started out as kids before, venturing into the unknown and taking risks all...)
OKAY, to end off the post, i quote josh's last line of the book:
I encourage you (and continue to remind myself) to write a love story with your life that you'll feel proud to tell.
-next up will be on thad's memorial run!!
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